It's official...Dad have a cancer... I need advice
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--------------------------Dad's tests results came today... he have a cancer... it's official...
He have to run some pre-surgery exams and have a surgery as soon as possible...
Maybe next week already...
He have a mouth cancer... it appeared on the tissue under the tongue...
At the surgery they'll pull out all his jaw teeth... remove who knows how much tissue ... they'll remove his jaw... cut part of the bone... all depending how far has cancer spread...
After that it's weeks of recovery and who know how much radiation therapy...
Only thinking about what he'll go through is making me shocked, depressed, sad, disgusted ... I don't know... so many emotions running through me...
I just hope it's discovered soon enough for him to survive the whole thing...
He'll never work again... eat nor talk normally again... nor even look normal again...
Just typing this makes me cry...
In previous journal some of you stated you had/have cancer experience... either your own or family... or friends...
Right now I need ANY advice possible... what to expect? how to react? How to stay strong? How to help my dad? Therapy? Medics? anything!!!!!
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The best thing to do is to be there to support him through the whole thing. with you there, he can feel that he's not going though this transition alone. it does get harder when the change happens, but hold on strong and stick with him. best wishes to you and your father.
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Trust the doctors. Though some might not seem it, they do know what they are doing.
Also, despite anything that happens to your Dad, consider this (provided everything works out fine and they have caught it soon enough), would you rather him around looking a little funny, or would you rather him dead? I would take disfigured and alive any day of the week, and twice for the weekends (because they are worth more).
Don't worry about being strong, just be there. Stay with him and be there when anything is needed. If you have to cry, cry. I know you said before your not afraid to cry, and don't be.
Life is what it is. What happens happen. No matter what, just make sure you have no regrets, no matter what happens.
I am starting to feel in your situation with my grandparents. They are starting to make me worry, though they have no defined sickness like cancer or anything.
Though I have no way to relate to your experience, I can just suggest you be there till the end, no matter what happens. Love and comfort him as best you can. If you have to, work harder at taking care of him. After this, he will need a lot of help, and if your just there, you are doing all you can.
No one can expect anything more from you than your best, so just do what you can.
I hope that everything turns out right. For you, him, and your family.
One last thing, if you believe in anything, PRAY. Prayer has been known to do more good than any science or doctor. Faith can heal when nothing else can.
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I wish him the best of luck. You and your family will all be in my prayers. Hang in there, Shintei....
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My bad.
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Hope that surgery will help him, even with all the other issues that have to be dealt with. Yes, there may be radiation and/or chemotherapy after the surgery to make sure that it has not spread. He will look funny to you for a while, but he will still be your dad and you will be there for him. He can at least confide in that single hope that you will help him through it.
I highly suggest finding a forum with other people going through/survived the experience of cancer. The forum I am in is a local one, so that will not help, but just search around and maybe you can find one. Maybe even in your native tongue. If all else fails, then heck, email me. I check it many times a day, even sometimes when it's late at night and I can't sleep.
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Everything heals in time.
If possible, Best thing to do is help him live happily without worry. Like go travel the world or just simply let him do something that he wants to do. Joy is still one of the best medicine.
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Hopefully it hasn't metastasized (spread) to anywhere else and as you say caught early,sorry to hear about your dad.
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